some popular (yet fake) urban legends

foxfamilyfeatures:

  • intelligence 
  • biological sex 
  • the notion that grammar matters 
  • the notion that masculinity is valuable 
  • the notion that academic success is important 
  • the notion that it is wrong to enjoy shallow things 
  • the notion that you must produce something to matter, the idea that you must succeed somehow to have value, anything that says that just existing at all under circumstances stacked against you is “not enough” 
  • gender not being something you are allowed to experiment with or change or have fun with 
  • the notion that it is bad to ask for help 

(via drbrucebananer)

"Who taught me to suck in my stomach,
or my cheeks?
Who told me to stand with my legs apart
and my hips thrust back
to create the illusion of a gap
between my thighs?
Who made me believe that the most beautiful part of me
is my negative space?"

thelesbianguide:

This is so important. 

As a person who always wants to genuinely be friends with everyone it is sometimes hard to see that there are people out there who are not good for you. It is better to have less friends who are people who truly care about you and have your back versus a lot of people who are quick to use you and drop you. It is something I still struggle with. Not only the idea that you have to let people go, but also how to go about it. 

~ Va-J-J

(Source: pleasestopbeingsad, via speakallowed)

"It’s not that people can’t love you if you don’t love yourself. It’s that you won’t feel it because it’ll always seem like you don’t deserve it."

(via chibi-brian)

(Source: write2014, via meterandrhyme)

"Your mental health comes before school baby, always. If its midnight, and you have an exam the next day but your hands have been shaking for the past hour and a half and you’re not so sure you want to be alive anymore, pull out that carton of Ben and Jerry’s and afterwards, go the fuck to bed. So what if you get a 68% on the exam the next day? You took care of yourself and at the end of the day that will always come before a high test score. To hell with anyone who tells you differently."

Abbie Nielsen, Dear Future Daughter (via octobermoe)

This is ++important right now

(via blondebarbells)

(via internal-acceptance-movement)

"The first step to loving yourself
begins with the words,
‘I matter.’
You deserve to occupy space.
You deserve to stand up for yourself
and claim your right to happiness.
You deserve to be here,
just as much as
anyone else."

Tina Tran, Self care (via feellng)

(via internal-acceptance-movement)

"But see, that’s the thing — depression doesn’t care what life looks like on paper. It doesn’t give a damn about what you tell yourself about how great life is and could be. What it does is slams the sheer gravity of being down upon you when you least expect it, ties weights to your ankles and drowns you in a sea of anxiety, of “what if”s and “not good enough”s. And that is something that took me a long time to understand and an even longer time to talk about."

"At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening."

findingmyrecovery:

Things to remember:

  • When no one is validating you, you can validate yourself
  • When no one is comforting you, you can comfort yourself
  • When no one is kind to you, you can be kind to yourself
  • When no one believes you, you can believe yourself

You can give yourself the things that you are looking for externally. You are allowed to be good to yourself.

(via internal-acceptance-movement)

"Developing the ability to piss other people off (or even to RISK pissing them off) without knuckling under is pretty much the Holy Grail of emotionally abused kids, I think. We are programmed to respond at the first sign of displeasure, and we don’t have the faith in ourselves and our decisions to weather the storm– or even a mild sprinkle– so we tend to freak out as if the world was ending if a cloud crosses the sun. We freak out about the possibility that we’re wrong, that we’re doing the wrong things, that we’re making the wrong choices, that we’ll make someone angry, because there’s this awful certainty lurking at the back of our minds that says “If you do the wrong thing, you will be in TROUBLE.” And being in TROUBLE is the worst thing, ever, because that part of our brain is forever three years old where our parents are our whole world and being in TROUBLE is the end of everything.

It takes a lot of practice to gain that sort of gut-level knowledge that we’re strong enough to handle this stuff and that the world doesn’t end if someone else is angry at us. It’s not an innate quality that some people have and some don’t; people who grow up in non-abusive homes learn it when they’re young, is all, and the rest of us have to learn it when we’re grown up. And it sucks, and it’s not fair, and it’s not fun, but there’s no getting around it, and you can do it, you CAN.

You can piss people off.

You can be wrong.

You can fuck up.

You can do stuff that everyone thinks is weird.

AND IT IS ALL OKAY. The world won’t end. You will still be a good person. And the likelihood is that most of the things you do WON’T be wrong, and WON’T piss people off, and WON’T be up-fuckery, and WON’T be weird, but if it is? The hell with it; fix it, if necessary, and move on."

PomperaFirpa @Captain Awkward (via ladysaviours)

this is still so much easier to tell other people than to feel myself.

(via collaterlysisters)

Please read this, and understand me.

(via danielle-ol)

(Source: ladysaviours, via ludachrisna-deactivated20140607)

"Stop hating on yourself for not being perfect. If God wanted perfection, He would have made you an angel."

(Source: bawahlangit, via afro-dominicano)

"For a star to be born, there is one thing that must happen: a gaseous nebula must collapse.

So collapse.
Crumble.
This is not your destruction.

This is your birth."

PSA:

moonrisezeeba:

When dealing with Invisible Illnesses, it’s important to remember, and very easy to forget, to count all Victories, no matter the size. Be generous. Something as simple as making breakfast or putting on shoes count. Nothing is too silly to count as a victory for the day or week.

(via rumplestiltsqueer)

floozys:

don’t buy that “love is a serious word” crap, love freely, love carelessly, love yourself, love that lady bird that just flew past, love that cutie that served you lunch at a cafe that you’ll probably never see again, love every single cat you see and when you stop loving someone or something, don’t fight it. i don’t know what love is but i know it’s not serious. 

(via sadqueerpunk)