you all need to stop settling
stop putting yourself in the presence of people who make you feel confused or less-than
don’t try to salvage a friendship if they make you feel like shit
don’t try to get into the brain of someone who’s closing themselves off to you
don’t try to start a relationship with someone who’s lukewarm
tell yourself “i deserve better” — because you do. it’s a hard thing to practice, but do it every day. every thing you do, throughout the day, tell yourself “i deserve this.” you deserve good things.
it’s hard to unlearn settling, but trust me, high standards will save you every time
oh gosh thank you :3
It’s OK to be in your comfort zone. You don’t have to leave it if you don’t want to. Being safe and comfy is very important in this world, so don’t let some jackass put you down for being there. You’re doing fabulous and everything is going to be OK.
Unfuck you if you shame people for their eating habits.
The other day at work a server I work with told me she gets shamed for not liking BBQ (she saw me eating a pork bbq sammich, thus a conversation was prompted.)
You know what? People don’t have to like BBQ. They can like whatever food they want to like.
People are allowed to eat as much as they want or as little as they want, it’s not your fucking business what foods people like or how much they eat.
I can’t believe people actually shame people for eating.
The important part? They are eating. That’s it. They are eating and that is a goodness.
The next time I am in RVA, let’d do this. YOU KNOW WHO can introduce us. I’ll prolly be awkward, though. Because I am awkward. :3
you are allowed to terminate toxic relationships
you are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you
you are allowed to be angry and selfish and unforgiving
you don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking care of yourself
it really pisses me off how easy it is to get sad and then how long and hard it is to get happy again like what the fuck man thats not fair
sometimes people who are sad dont always need the “it gets better talk”
sometimes people just want to hear “you are sad, you are trying your best, and it’s okay. you’re okay and you’re alive and that’s a big accomplishment”
because i know for myself unconditional optimism gets really fucking annoying. sometimes i just want to be sad and have it be okay that im sad.
don’t make me feel weirder than i already do in my own skin.