"At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening."

findingmyrecovery:

Things to remember:

  • When no one is validating you, you can validate yourself
  • When no one is comforting you, you can comfort yourself
  • When no one is kind to you, you can be kind to yourself
  • When no one believes you, you can believe yourself

You can give yourself the things that you are looking for externally. You are allowed to be good to yourself.

(via internal-acceptance-movement)

"Developing the ability to piss other people off (or even to RISK pissing them off) without knuckling under is pretty much the Holy Grail of emotionally abused kids, I think. We are programmed to respond at the first sign of displeasure, and we don’t have the faith in ourselves and our decisions to weather the storm– or even a mild sprinkle– so we tend to freak out as if the world was ending if a cloud crosses the sun. We freak out about the possibility that we’re wrong, that we’re doing the wrong things, that we’re making the wrong choices, that we’ll make someone angry, because there’s this awful certainty lurking at the back of our minds that says “If you do the wrong thing, you will be in TROUBLE.” And being in TROUBLE is the worst thing, ever, because that part of our brain is forever three years old where our parents are our whole world and being in TROUBLE is the end of everything.

It takes a lot of practice to gain that sort of gut-level knowledge that we’re strong enough to handle this stuff and that the world doesn’t end if someone else is angry at us. It’s not an innate quality that some people have and some don’t; people who grow up in non-abusive homes learn it when they’re young, is all, and the rest of us have to learn it when we’re grown up. And it sucks, and it’s not fair, and it’s not fun, but there’s no getting around it, and you can do it, you CAN.

You can piss people off.

You can be wrong.

You can fuck up.

You can do stuff that everyone thinks is weird.

AND IT IS ALL OKAY. The world won’t end. You will still be a good person. And the likelihood is that most of the things you do WON’T be wrong, and WON’T piss people off, and WON’T be up-fuckery, and WON’T be weird, but if it is? The hell with it; fix it, if necessary, and move on."

PomperaFirpa @Captain Awkward (via ladysaviours)

this is still so much easier to tell other people than to feel myself.

(via collaterlysisters)

Please read this, and understand me.

(via danielle-ol)

(Source: ladysaviours, via ludachrisna)

"Stop hating on yourself for not being perfect. If God wanted perfection, He would have made you an angel."

(Source: bawahlangit, via kenobi-wan-obi)

"For a star to be born, there is one thing that must happen: a gaseous nebula must collapse.

So collapse.
Crumble.
This is not your destruction.

This is your birth."

PSA:

moonrisezeeba:

When dealing with Invisible Illnesses, it’s important to remember, and very easy to forget, to count all Victories, no matter the size. Be generous. Something as simple as making breakfast or putting on shoes count. Nothing is too silly to count as a victory for the day or week.

(via rumplestiltsqueer)

floozys:

don’t buy that “love is a serious word” crap, love freely, love carelessly, love yourself, love that lady bird that just flew past, love that cutie that served you lunch at a cafe that you’ll probably never see again, love every single cat you see and when you stop loving someone or something, don’t fight it. i don’t know what love is but i know it’s not serious. 

(via sadqueerpunk)

"Date yourself. Take yourself out to eat. Don’t share your popcorn at the movies with anyone. Stroll around an art museum alone. Fall in love with canvases. Fall in love with yourself."

ee-ee-ee:

You are important. Your feelings are valid. You’re dealing with a lot and you don’t need to feel ashamed. You are not alone. There are others who understand. There are people in your life who love you. There are people who will love you. Nothing is ever over. You are fine. You are alive and that alone is a testament to your strength.

(Source: gay4dragons, via speakallowed)

"Be with someone that requires you to grow, makes you forget your problems, holds your hand, likes to kiss, appreciates art, and adores you."

Mama Zara  (via nofatnowhip)

(Source: thoughtsonfire, via brodieroset)

"Give yourself permission to immediately walk away from anything that gives you bad vibes. There is no need to explain or make sense of it. Just trust what you feel."

"i choose to end the compulsive habit of thinking and
speaking insecurities. these are not my insecurities. they
were habitual thoughts passed down to me. the
foundation i’ve lain for myself is noble and true of heart
and must be treated as such, with compassion and clarity."

"There will always be reasons why people won’t love you. Don’t let them be the deciding factor for how you LOVE YOURSELF."

Alex Elle (via alexandraelle)

(via ludachrisna)

yourpersonalcheerleader:

Who are you letting into your life? Be mindful of the energy they bring.

(via speakallowed)